Let's talk about being pro-choice. Relax. Not that kind.

I'm a part of the generation that took to the barricades to make reproductive decisions the right of each woman, to chose, for herself. Along with millions of other women (and men, too) I marched, picketed, wrote letters, circulated petitions and voted to make darned sure that choice was both law and norm.

But thanks to the maddening and saddening Mommy Wars I feel like I need to get suited up again.

Here's the deal. If we ferociously argued that bearing children was a choice for each woman, can we get equally passionate about right of each woman to choose how to be a parent? Can we be warmly accepting—maybe even vocally supportive— of a colleague's choice to be a working parent—or a stay-at-home parent? Can we take to the barricades again, this time to demand that organizations create definitions of work that really give her a choice? And can we take a long, hard look in the mirror and admit that for most women in the workforce, this will always be about economic necessity, not any real choice?